For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
I have been doing a study called "The Truth About Man" by Paul Washer, and I am just loving it! This verse is one that has always meant a lot to me when thinking about marriage. To become one, is a powerful thing. We live in a time when marriages are failing more often then they are thriving. I truly believe it is because we have lost site of this verse. We live in the world of 'me and you' not the world of 'us'. We simply don't see married people as one flesh.
As I was contemplating this verse, I just couldn't help but ponder on what it takes to move from the 'me and you' stage to the 'us'. Here's what it looks like in my marriage:
- One bank account- Not his bills and my bills, but our bills.
- The same last name- I am his Mrs. and he is my Mr. I want the world to know it!
- Forgiveness- You know when Jesus said that we should do to others as we would have them do to us? I really want Mr. Amazing to forgive me when I screw up, so it's essential to forgive him no matter how big or small the offence is.
- Concentrate on the good things- Philippians 4:8! Instead of focusing on the things my Mr. does wrong, I focus on the things he does right. Sure, he is far from perfect, but so am I. I guess it goes back to the do unto others...
- Shared responsibility- We don't have his and hers chores. Sure, I do most of the house work because I'm home more. But he helps out too. He does the laundry on his days off, and he cooks meals when he gets the chance.
- Looking out for each other- in a world that tells us to protect ourselves at all costs, we do what's best for our family, not ourselves. If I have a PTA meeting and am running short on time, I don't cut out the door and stop by McDonalds, I take the time to put a meal in the oven for the family even if I can't eat it. Mr. Amazing goes to work day in and day out to provide for us, even during the stages when he can't stand his job (thankfully, he currently is loving his work... it depends on the boss I think).
What about you? What are some of the ways that you and your Mr. have become one, instead of him and you?