Monday, January 23, 2012

The Gospel for the Imperfect Wife

Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.
~Proverbs 31:11

One of my all time favorite blogs is Christ in the Chaos. I love how she words her posts to always include the gospel. I'm bringing this up because her blog inspired this post. Anyway, on to the Mr. Monday portion of this blog post!

When I read the above verse today, it really just... well it hurt. I fail my husband in so many ways. He has full confidence in me, but only because love is blind and he's amazing like that. However, he lacks a lot. 

I am far from the perfect wife. Housekeeping isn't exactly my strong suit. The dishes aren't always done, neither is the laundry. The floors all need to be vacuumed and I don't have meals planned out for the entire month (or even the day). He needed his hair cut, and I didn't have the time so he had to go to a salon. Things just add up, and when I read the verses in Proverbs 31, it can be tempting to feel like a failure. But that's not what Christ wants.

You see, Christ came to earth because He knew that we wouldn't be able to be the perfect wives. He knew that we were in capable of making it on our own. He came to save us from having to be perfect. Yes, it's good to read Proverbs 31 and have that as a backdrop for the perfect wife, but we have to remember, I have to remember, that God knew that I wouldn't BE that wife. He knew that I would fail, and that my kids would wash the dishes, do some laundry, and my husband would order pizza on days like today when I fell asleep with one of the kids. 

I will never be perfect, and neither will you. Our husbands know it, God knows it, why can't we accept it? Today, I am choosing to bathe in the grace of God. I will not feel defeated when looking at the dirty carpet and mound of laundry waiting to be put away. I choose to feel the peace that God promised us through the blood of Christ. I choose to accept that imperfections and shortcomings aren't the end of the world. I might be an imperfect wife. I might fall short of the Proverbs 31 woman, but I have a mighty Savior and an Amazing husband, and I won't let the things of this world get me down!

P.S. It's my birthday, and I know he has plans... I just have yet to figure them out! More on that next week :)


  1. P.P.S. No birthday plans because he is sick and the babysitter has to work... but I'm making these super yummy strawberry brownie cupcakes... they look incredible!

  2. HAPPY BIRTHDAY! I hope it was a fun, blessed one :)

    I agree with you, that we are imperfect, and I am thankful for those who accept me just as God made me :) That way, when we fail, they don't bring it up! And when we don't, they commend us.

    Way to go on an awesome blog post :-D

  3. Honey, I want to tell you a secret...the only reason I plan out an entire month of meals is because I am weak when it comes to budgeting! Seriously! Darling Groom gets paid once a month and so if I don't do it this way, we end up short in household funds. This was something God really had to deal with me on and I've got to tell you, He still does, lol. Thankfully He's an awesome Father with abundant grace and love. So, imperfect as we all are, His perfect love is just what we need.