This week for Mr. Monday, I am linking up with Chrysalis for the monthly Marriage Monday blog hop. You can learn more about Marriage Monday by clicking the above button. This week the topic is "Faith". Specifically: What advice would you give to a young couple about to be married?
This is actually a topic in an online community that I am involved with right now. First and foremost my advice would be to go to premarital counseling. While I myself have never been to it, I think it would have benefited us in so many ways! Aside from that, I just really think it's important that no matter what your marriage situation is, that you remember that first and foremost you are a servant of Christ. We have to remember that our faith is in Christ alone. Our husbands are sinful humans, just like us. There will be times when they will fail us, it's important to make sure that their failures (or our own) don't determine our faith. There will be so many times throughout marriage that one or both parties will screw up, but God is still there. Moreover, God can take our mistakes and use them for His glory if we let Him.
When things go wrong, don't focus on the hurt, while that is easier said then done, try to focus on what God can do with the situation, and how He want's you to respond. Do your best to pray before responding, and remember to respond in love, not anger. Above all else, remember that you vow to LOVE each other for better or for worse, not merely tolerate one another. Focus on the good, and give the problem area's to God. Don't ask Him to "fix" your mates flaws, but rather ask Him to help you love one another and unite your hearts.
What about you? What advice about faith would you share with a couple that was about to get married? Leave a comment or write your own post and link up at Chrysalis.
Some good advice: "When things go wrong, don't focus on the hurt, while that is easier said then done, try to focus on what God can do with the situation, and how He want's you to respond."
ReplyDeleteSometimes the right thing is to forgive and let the offense go. Other times it's important to speak up and voice our concerns. Long story short. We can't change our spouse, but we CAN change ourselves... which often brings about a change in them. God is faithful to show us the right approach in every situation.
Thanks for joining us for Marriage Monday, today Harter.
Blessings, e-Mom @ Chrysalis
Great advice! No need to sugar coat marriage and set couples up for awful shocks later on. We need a firm foundation for marriage.
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