Monday, June 13, 2011

Mr. Monday: Love isn't

Last week for Mr. Monday I wrote about Mr. Amazing's amazing relationship with my mom. The above picture is one that he insisted on with (his words) "our whole family". :)

For Mr. Monday this week, I thought I would just continue on with my 1 Corinthians 13 study. It only seems fitting to include Mr. Monday in this study about love, as I love my Mr!!!

It does not dishonor others (rude), it is not self-seeking ~ 1 Corinthians 13:5a

These two aspects of love amaze me. No one would dishonor someone, unless they were being self-seeking. It's so easy to put yourself above others, and in the process hurt them or dishonor them. It takes serious mental effort for most people to realize why they think the way they do, and that by putting themselves first, they are more likely to hurt others. I would love to say that I don't dishonor others, as I would never do so on purpose, but I know that I do without trying, just by putting myself first. I try to put others first, especially Mr. Amazing, but I fail. I am rude to others when I don't stop to think about my actions, thus putting my own emotions ahead of the feelings of others...

My family is obviously the one that suffers from this the most. Mr. Amazing never puts me down or tells me that I'm being selfish. Why? Because he isn't being selfish. He loves me, and chooses not to dishonor me with words or actions. While I on the other hand, am sitting here writing a blog post about not being self-seeking instead of finishing something that he asked me to do this morning...

There are so many ways that we can be self-seeking and dishonor others without thinking. If you don't mind opening up a bit this week, what are some of the things that you do selfishly that effect your Mr.? (Please don't tell us about his faults, that wouldn't be too very loving!)

Ways that I am selfish:
-I do things at my own pace.
-I put the projects and chores that I want to get done above all the other ones in the house.
-I cook things that I want to eat, without asking Mr. Amazing what he would like.
-On family movie night, I pick movies that I would like to watch.

I'm sure there are many, many more, but those are just the ones off the top of my head. I don't ALWAYS do those things, but they aren't uncommon...

Your turn!


  1. I'll go first :) I get selfish when I start to feel like my husband gets to do whatever he wants. We help out with our church youth group (He leads worship for them) and so when youth events come around (summer camp, retreats, etc.) he of course wants to go. And most of the time he gets to. And I get that pity-party "Why can't I go?" attitude. When really, I probably wouldn't have as much fun knowing that our kids were with someone else. My husband is very easy to please, and very unselfish. I'm thankful that he puts up with me in my times of the "me" attitude! :)

  2. It is hard to go against our flesh when there is a really good movie on we want to see. It's hard to think of others ALL the time... but the big hurdle is noticing when we do it and allowing the Holy Spirit to rearrange us. To change our selfish tendancies. And it sounds like that is exactly what you're doing!